Back To School: Things to Avoid Your Freshmen Year in Highschool

Grade 9 can be an exciting and fun year but it can also be stressful as there are tons of changes and new challenges. Since I have been there and done that, I thought I would share my wisdom on the subject of starting high school.

1. Don’t take up all the space in the hallway. Think of high school as an anarchy and as sad as it seems you are at the bottom of the totem pole. Grade 12’s get the center, then grade 11 (that is me) then grade 10’s and then there is you. Kids are bigger, louder and know there way around the school so stick the sides of the hallways. That’s is how you avoid getting caught in the whirlwind of a high school hallway.

2. Don’t sit at the very front of the class or the back. It’s best to sit in the middle that way you are kind of in the social section so that you can make friends easily but still stay focused.

3.Don’t stay quiet. You want to put yourself out there and try to make as much friends on the first day. If your a shy person then try to be talkative with the more outgoing people who start talking to you. Also make friends with both genders, it’s not grade 5 and everyone of the opposite gender has cooties. It’s good to make relationship’s with everyone.

4. Don’t be mean to your locker neighbor. Even if there older try to make a relationship with them. They can be very helpful when you need advice on classes, lost locker or navigating the school. If their in the same grade then you both can potentially help each other out.

5. Don’t sit alone at lunch. You want to try to sit with a person you met in your classes because they can introduce you to others.

6. Don’t avoid clubs and sports. if you are interested in doing something, DO IT! You will regret it if you don’t. Try out for everything because grade 9 is the time to figure out who you are and how can you do that if you don’t try things out.

7. Don’t ditch old friends from grade school. You have spent a long time with them and those relationships are still important. Although I only talk to 4 out of the 23 people I went to school with, I love being able to act more like a kid with them because they remember me during all my awkward stages, that is a special bond. Also, even though you may not talk to the rest of your class, it’s still nice to have people in the class you know so don’t be a jerk.

8. Don’t go to the first party. This is more of a tale of caution. The ugly truth is the first party is a breeding ground for older students, especially grade 10’s to hook up with grade 9’s. A lot of bad can happen here including a social shake up. It’s fun to party, don’t get me wrong but I would wait about 3 weeks till attending one, usually the obsession dies down by then.

9. Don’t act that your top dog. News flash! Your not! This will only put a target on you with not only your own grade but older students. An add on to this is that if you take the bus home 9 times out of 10 there is a bus anarchy as well so don’t get to comfortable in the seat you chose because chances are it belongs to someone else. Try making friends while you wait for the bus because it can take the pain out of riding to and from school.

10. Don’t be naïve. It’s high school and no one is babying you. There is going to be drug, alcohol and people having sex but it is up to you whether you want to be apart of it. Ask around and figure out were a lot of the people doing drugs are and try to avoid them. The key here is not the judge, there all different types of people in high school and that is what makes it so great. Even if someone participates in something you don’t like, doesn’t mean they are a bad person, still give them a chance and drop the hint that your not into that stuff. Nobody likes someone who passes judgment so keep and open mind and have fun.

Grade 9 is so fun and exciting so be yourself and enjoy it! I hope this was helpful and please let me know if you want more back to school tips and study ideas.


The Elephant: What The Symbol Did For Me and What It Can Do For You

My love for the elephant started from a young age when I went to Montessori school and the teacher (who I love dearly and has taught me everything I know) told me about elephants being killed for their tusks. You might be thinking “why is the teacher telling a 5 year old such a horrible thing?” but without her I wouldn’t be as aware of the world as I am today, I am like this because she told us the truth about culture, war, animals and different religions (but most importantly have respect for them and for the world). I was horrified by this discovery, so I asked “why would they kill such a beautiful, strong and smart animal?” Continue reading

Journal # 9: The Six Year Age Gap

For those of you who don’t know, my little sister and I are 6 years apart (nobody in between, just the 2 of us) As much as sometimes I wish we were closer together in age, I am often truly satisfied with the years we have apart. She makes me feel like a kid and I get to help her grow up, she doesn’t steal my clothes or makeup, and she doesn’t embarrass me at school simply because she is not at my school. The age gap has helped me develop a more marital instinct and has taught her that someone is always there to listen to you even if you don’t wanna tell mom.

We carry each others secrets like the time we broke the small decretive statue in out house or when she cheated on her social studies test because her notes just happen to be on the corner of the desk. Most importantly as much as sometimes we want there to be, there is no competition. We don’t have the same hobbies, never played the same sports, and she is too young to be in realistic competition in grades. Although I know she mumbles in frustration “why is Donatella so smart? Look at me I am Donatella and I get 90’s” (yes i do get 90’s). I always tell her your nine and I am sixteen even if you wanted to be good at english, you can’t be because you don’t know enough yet, and that’s okay, it doesn’t make you stupid.

Over the last year though she has definitely kicked my ass in math (sixteen year old me and 9 year old me). She flew right past me with times tables, fractions, area and perimeter and at that point in my life I couldn’t do that on paper let alone in my head. So every one in a while I always say to her “wow your way better at math then I am, your pronunciation in french is better than mine and look at that you are an amazing cook (by the way she loves cooking and I hate it….I burnt popcorn at fifteen and she can make a grilled cheese sandwich at eight).

But sometimes it has it’s downsides, there are moments in our relationship where it’s like each other doesn’t exist cause we are so busy or we become annoyed with each others immaturity (ie; hers) and bossiness (ie; mine). We forget each others age, she expects me to play with her all the time and I expect her to not leave a disaster every where she goes. Me being sick I am able to spend more time with her and we do more together like spend an hour together each morning, pull pranks on each other and read together at night.

Some say that after 5 years of not having a sibling your and only child, but I disagree with that. My sister and I are able to grow as separate people without fighting for attention or trying to one up each others successes all the time, she doesn’t feel like she has to do exactly what I do or that we are enemies. She looks up to me and in a way I look up to her where as when siblings are closer together they can fight over who’s stronger, better, smarter and it takes them a while to have respect for each other (i have cousins who are close together…..I have noticed the difference). In order for our relationship to be strong we have develop ourselves and then we develop together.

So if you are worried about having kids far apart I hope this eases the concern. Plus you have your own personal babysitter, chef , hairdresser, tutor….it’s like having a second mom or dad. Next time if you meet someone with siblings far apart, don’t feel bad for them because in my opinion it is the best sibling dynamic out there.



Saturday Morning Coffee Talks//2.6.16

This week has been a really good week altogether and I am excited to share it with all of you.

Highlight of the past week// my mom and I are planning how to redecorate my room and I could not be more excited

Lowlight of the past week// Doctor appointments😦, I really hate hospitals and I always will

Greatest Moment// my sister pulled a prank on me and poured a big bucket of water on me via rope and pulley system. Prank Wars is on!

Blogging Updates/ Highlights// I recently started a blog dedicated to books with fellow blogger Tabby from Orange Owl Diaries . It is a blog where we talk everything bookish from reviews to book topic discussions with you guys! Definitely go check it out and follow if your a book lover like me!

Latest Addiction// Waking up late….need I say more

Latest Love//  watercolour phone wallpaper, it makes me so happy plus it has an elephant on it!

Looking Forward// My favourite show UnReal is coming back on for a second season and I have never been so happy/nervous aver a Tv show. If you haven’t seen it you need to check it out. It is all about the nitty gritty world of reality tv with a Bachelor tv show  esque twist. If you like Empire and the Bachelor franchise then you will love this! It’s exclusive to Lifetime but you can catch episodes online.

Favourite Meal// I had this amazing salad in tuesday with peppers, cucumbers and a bit of tuna dressed with balsamic vinegar and olive oil.

Quote of the Week//

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”

-Robert Frost

I hope you all liked this post and I have an exciting post coming up soon! Make sure to check out my new book blog because I will be posting a book haul and who doesn’t love those?


Why You Should Meditate + Visuale

I did a post about why you should meditate a while ago and i decided to re vamp it and put in a visual format because you all seem to like these and I love how fun they are to make. This is a new health series I will be starting all about meditation and I will be putting it out every month.

Meditation is starting to become a more common thing in the world and my life. Meditation is a practice where an individual trains the mind or induces a mode of consciousness, either to realize some benefit or for the mind to simply acknowledge its content without becoming identified with that content, or as an end in itself. Continue reading

Sixteen + A List Of Sixteen Things

I was born on this day sixteen years ago today! Yay me! Yes today is my sixteenth birthday and considering the events of the past 5 weeks I am very excited that today I can try to forget and celebrate. Although nor do me and my family understand let alone participate in “Sweet Sixteen” parties with a big cake, drunk teens and a new car (although that last one would be nice), we do however throw a party with my immediate family and then I get together with friends later on.

I have been reflecting on my life up until this point (which probably sounds ridiculous because there is probably food in the fridge older than me, but…) Throughout these years I have gained quite a bit of knowledge on what to do, what not to do and things you will do without even realizing it. Here it is “Sixteen Things I Have Learned Throughout My Sixteen Years Of Living”

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Saturday Morning Coffee Talks//14.5.16

I am back with my weekly update! If you missed any of my posts this week they are linked here, here and here. This week was uneventful, a couple of doctor appointments here and text messages there but still none the less and update is in order.

Highlight of the past week// My wonderful friend came and visited me!

Lowlight of the past week// Doctor appointments 😦

In future weeks// I am going to a most anticipated concert…more details to come!

Blogging Updates/ Highlights// I am currently a contributor to the online blogging advice magazine Millionaires Digest ! I am very excited and I hope this opportunity continues, I am really looking forward to putting out some motivational and inspirations blogging posts that are a little bit different from my posts on this blog. Click the link here to see my post or search ‘donatella’ in the search bar and make sure to read, like and comment! 🙂

Favourite meal// Breakfast! 2 days ago I had oat meal with tons of fruit and some hunny.

This weekend// I am celebrating my sixteenth year on this planet, it is just one day away so stay tuned for a birthday post tomorrow! I am really excited because although I can’t have a party with friends because of my illness, I can still have one with my family.

Latest disaster// My blog instagram account, did you guys like it better when I had my personal account linked or do you like my blog account!

Latest addiction// burning my Bath & Body Works coconut leaves candle…according to my senses I am skipping spring and heading straight for summer.

Latest thought// “what sweatpants? the Roots ones or the Nike ones?”

Latest Flick// I have been a movie fanatic: I have watched Love, Rosie           There might even be a movie review in the works

Coffee Community Moment// a recent follower named Victoria commented the nicest things on my posts and took the time to give me some great advice on a past post about my sister as well as a must needed book-talk. Victoria has a beauty blog which I am in love with, her posts are always so pretty and informative. Definitely check her out! heres the link (and her blogs name has “lattes” in it, so naturally I fell in love”

That’s it for me, I hope you have a great week. But before I go, I just wanted to address some of the new topics here. As most of you have noticed, I change the are of discussion every week but if you do what a sent questions, would like a question answered or would like any of these prompts to be permanent please by all means let me know! I love these posts because they are so quick, easy and you guys love them!

~Ciao, Donatella (stay tuned for a post about my reasoning for a new blog, I am still in the process of cleaning up)

p.s the Coffee Community Moment is to recognize my awesome readers who motivate me and encourage me to keep content going! My community is really important to me! These posts are not in collaboration with these bloggers, it’s just a way of saying thanks and spreading the Shamelessly Addicted To Caffeine love.


Night time routine

Recharge Your Night Routine: 6 Steps to Peaceful Nights and Successful Days

I have learned that finding a sleep routine is a goldilocks and the 3 bears kind of situation. You have to test it out, feel the waters and it’s okay if the porridge is to hot and the chairs to big, you just have to keep testing. In the mean time all that trial and error can disrupt your sleep pattern and as a result ruin your days. On the other hand you can get bored of the same routine and this may also cause a disturbance with your beauty sleep. It’s okay because I can guarantee you that these 6 steps will resting well at night and loudly singing in the morning.

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Saturday Morning Coffee Talks//5.7.2016

Good morning everybody, it has been a while since I last did post a coffee talk and I really miss doing them. This last 5 weeks have been quite “interesting” to say the least (check out this journal post for the full update)

Highlight of the past week// I cleaned my room and everything is now nice and organized. I expect that it will go back to normal in bout 3 days (normal being the absolute disaster it originally was in)

In the future// I am very excited for mothers day to see my family and spend time with everyone.

Latest disaster// hmmm…let me think? MY LIFE lol

Latest addiction// spotify! I just recently got the app and yes as cheap as I am paid for the premium package and I am in love!

Things that made me smile// an elderly lady at the grocery store couldn’t reach the top shelf and as I was going to help her a group of teenage boys helped her reach it. I saw them 20 minutes later and they were helping her get her shopping done and loading the groceries into her car. I was about to cry, it was so sweet.

Quote of the week//

never love anybody who treats you like your ordinary

-Oscar Wilde

That’s all for me today! I will be posting an exciting post soon. I, unfortunately, am slowly running out of blog topics so if you have any suggestions anything you want to ask I would be more than happy to write about it. Just leave it in the comment section or click the Contact page and shoot me an email. I of course would give you credit for your topic when I post it!


Journal #8: The Last 5 Weeks

It all started April 6th, I started to come down with a cold. I had a stuffy nose, achey body and I was starting to feel warm. I knew I was coming down with a cold, so I took a half a day off school to go home and try to sleep it off.

To my dismay, I woke up feeling worse than ever. I decided I needed to go to the doctors because this had been the 3rd time over the course of 5 months that I had caught a cold and I knew something was up. At this point, I had felt a tight chest pain and felt very weak. I knew this wasn’t a cold, I had caught the flu for the 3rd time this year. The doctor confirmed my self-diagnoses and I was off with a script for 2 inhalers and some antibiotics.

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